HURT - Cause and Effect
Letís get right to the point.† Hurt is from the god of this world who is the devil.† This is not a permanent situation, but we have to wait for the return of Jesus Christ for it to change.
In whom the god of this world hath blinded the minds of them which believe not, lest the light of the glorious gospel of Christ, who is the image of God, should shine unto them. - II Corinthians 4: 4
Thatís what the Word of God clearly says.†† The present god of this world blinds the minds of those who choose not to believe the Word of God.† I am going to spell this out for you so that you have no misunderstanding of what that Scripture says.† The devil blinds peopleís minds so that the light of the Word of God, the gospel of Jesus Christ, who is the image of God, should shine or be made known unto those people.† When people get born again of Godís Spirit, they no longer belong to the god of this world.† But most importantly, anyone who was born again must renew their mind to Godís Word which is the key to your power in this present, evil world.† There is only one thing that defeats the devil and all his devil spirits and that is the Word of God believed and applied.
Now the reason I have broken down everything to its simplest terms is because of the present situation of the world today.† There is more íhurtí going on in the world today than almost any time in history.† Most people have turned their back on God and His Word.† They worship idols which are anything that comes before the true God.† It can be their trucks or it can be football, phones or almost anything.† The adversary does nothing but steal, kill, and destroy.
The thief (Satan) cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: - John 10: 10a
I am going into great detail at the beginning of this teaching because the devil is also going into great detail.† He is working overtime to get people to believe that itís okay to gamble, itís okay to practice without natural affection (homosexuals and lesbians), and on a similar subject, itís okay to have same-sex marriages.† Let me tell you something.† The people who are practicing this type of lifestyle have nothing to look forward to except to pay for what theyíre doing.† I see advertisements on television showing two men kissing each other.† I see on popular programs such as NCIS Hawaii two women having a sexual affair.† I turned the show off with a sick feeling in my stomach and I never watched it again.† The adversary who is the devil is coming right out with these ways of life that contradict Godís Word.† Iím going to have you look this up on your own because we need to walk with God and get by on our own independent study.† The Scriptures that pertain to these subjects are in the book of Romans chapter 1, verses 26 and 27.† Notice that God says that people who practice this sickening and disgusting way of life will receive back in themselves their error.† This is how AIDS came about.† You see you can argue with God and you can decide not to believe Him and live the opposite way, but youíre always going to get back what you give out.† When you transgress the Word of God, you are going to pay with a life of misery and suffering.† I have seen this happen countless times.† So go out there and do what you want to do.† You all have free will.† God will never overstep that free will.† The devil will possess and control you and take away your free will if he can.
I surprised myself by getting into such a lengthy and detailed introduction.† It was my intention to prepare you for an interesting teaching about Ďhurtí.† The following teaching will clearly illustrate what a real person went through pertaining to the subject of our teaching. There are no exaggerations or improvisations, only fact. It will illustrate cause and effect.† That person is myself.
There be three things† which are too wonderful for me, yea, four which I know not: - Proverbs 30: 18
The way of an eagle in the air; the way of a serpent upon a rock; the way of a ship in the midst of the sea; and the way of a man with a maid. - Proverbs 30: 19
Although I very, very seldom use another version of the Bible besides the King James Version (KJV), for this one example, I am going to use the translation of the New King James Version of the last phrase of Proverbs 30: 19.† I am only going to make this exception because it will make the subject matter of the verse clearer to you.† Here is the last phrase of the above verse:
ÖÖÖÖÖÖÖ††††† and the way of a man with a young woman. - Proverbs 30: 19d (NKJV)
Now many of you who are familiar with my teachings, know that I love to tell different true stories about the good and bad times that I had with many of my girlfriends.† I agree with God to such a great extent that there was nothing too wonderful for me than to have a romantic relationship with a female partner.† However, this story which is true to fact is going to focus on a young woman as is stated at the end of the above Scripture.† This story had a long lasting effect on my life since it† involved a great deal of hurt.† I want you to take notice of how the adversary deceived me and turned this beautiful young woman into a person who only sought vengeance upon me.† I admit that I made a mistake, but it appears to be redeemed as a result of her present and future actions.† To this day, this woman will not speak to me and has rejected any attempt that I made to speak with her and to tell her what exactly happened and why I did what I did.† The story that you are about to hear has had a massive impact on my life.† The only thing I can do with this information is to share it with you.† That way there is some profit that can result as a result of everything that happened between myself and my girlfriend.† I will begin now to get into the specifics of what happened.† It is a very strong belief of mine that you can learn something from this teaching.† You are never to condemn yourself about anything in your life.† Believe it or not, condemnation is sin - it is broken fellowship.† The devil tricks us into doing some things by our own free will that later comes back to haunt us and we condemn ourselves for most of our lives.† Once you read this teaching, you will know that you are not alone and you do not have to condemn yourself.
THERE is† therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus. - Romans 8: 1
I want to stress the fact that when all of this took place, I was not born again of Godís spirit.† Any person not born again belongs to the god of this world.† He controls and manipulates their life and remember, all he does is steal, kill, and destroy.
I had a very difficult life at my home.† My parents were constantly arguing and I even developed stomach ulcers when I was about 12 years old.† Every chance that I got, I got out of my home and went out wherever I could.† I found great solace in having a girlfriend.† It meant more to me than to other people.† I was a junior in high school and a girl I was with was a freshman.† Our ages were about 15 and 16 years old.† We dated for quite some time and she was rather quiet.† One night when we were sitting on her porch, she seemed to break down in tears and asked me not to let her breakup with me.† This really shook me up.† Why was she thinking such a thing?† I tried to blow it off in my mind and I let it go.† To make a very long story very short, there was a church dance that took place every week.† For some reason, this one week, I did not go to the dance, but my girlfriend did.† There was a guy there that was always chasing after my girlfriend.† It really got on my nerves and she did something that that seemed to torture me.† She danced with this guy all night long.† I confronted her about it since people were telling me about her behavior.† She acted like it was nothing and seemed to be quite apathetic about the situation.† I was hurt and hurt bad.† I was hurt so bad that I couldnít stop thinking about this guyís arm being around her most of the night at that dance.
For jealousy is †the rage of a man:† therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance. - Proverbs 6: 34
Then I kept thinking about what she said to me on her porch.† The two things were coming together in my mind and telling me that I was going to get burned.† It was just a matter of time.† I got on the telephone and I called her and I told her that I thought we should break up.† Iíll never forget her answer: ďJust like thatĒ is what she said.† I had wondered if I was making a mistake because her voice sunk down about as low as it could go.† It became apparent to me in time that my jealousy and anger and fear pertaining to her could have been wrong.† I will never know.† The point that really bothered me was about every two months, she sent a friend to speak to me.† The message was that she wanted to talk to me.† Somehow, I felt that she was trying to set me up because of what I did.† But two months later, the girl came back and tried to get me to speak to my old girlfriend again.† I was a little bit surprised, but two months later, this friend of hers came back and asked me the same thing.† She made a point to tell me that this was the last time she was going to approach me.† You remember when we were younger, we were always suspicious of the person we dated.† It seemed to be a normal thing that people went together steady and then they split up.† You see the trick that the god of this world pulled on me was to make me think that this girl was going to break up with me.† I believe to this day that he tricked me into doing what I did.† As time went on this girl went to college to study art.† I was rather shocked when that girl who used to come to talk to me met me somewhere.† She said that her friend was going wild at college Ė drinking and partying.† This did not sound like her at all.† But the end result of all this was that I realized that I made a mistake based on information coming to me that was not true.
This is how the enemy works.† It was about 30 years later that I was wondering what was bothering me.† There was something bothering me and taking my peace away from me.
I thought deeply about this for quite some time.† Now, I was born again and I knew the Word of God.† Iíve tried to teach you about word of knowledge and word of wisdom.† God showed that it was what I did concerning the hurt that I caused this young woman that was bothering me.† I had to do something about it.† I tried letters and even by making a 300 mile trip to see her and speak to her.† She was now married with children and that changes a person drastically.† She did everything she could to get away from me and not answer anything that I wrote to her.† She even took down her email address from the high school in which she was teaching.† Every other teacher in that school had their email address listed.† I believe she did that so that I could not contact her.† It was hurting me and it seemed to be done on purpose.
Now I am doing this teaching so that you can see how the adversary works.† He is never satisfied until he destroys everything.† Now get this in your head and try to absorb it and understand it.† By not giving me a chance to explain what happened and to apologize for my hurting her, she was now hurting me as much as I hurt her.† Can you see it?† I tried for years to make amends with my old girlfriend and she pushed me aside like I was a piece of garbage.† So now itís on her.† It doesnít bother me anymore because I did my very best to heal this wound.† She knew I was desperate to speak to her and she couldnít care less.† Two wrongs do not make a right.† You are to do your best and God does the rest.† I did my best.† I checked on her for maybe the last time and she retired from her position and her husband died of cancer.† Would it not have been better if we got together and spoke to each other like two human beings?† I wouldíve been able to tell her why I did what I did and that all of my suspicions were not justified.† I let love slip through my hands and I was about as sorry for what I did as any man could be on the face of this earth.† But she seemed to want revenge for what I did and thatís what happens to many people.† Itís off the Word.
Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: - Ephesians 4: 31
And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christís sake hath forgiven you. - Ephesians 4: 32
I couldnít say it any better than God.† We are to forgive one another.
I saw it happen to my parents.† They were divorced after 25 years of marriage.† They hurt each other as much as possible.† But I found out at the end of their lives, that they still loved one another.† This is all the works of the devil and Iím going to place some Scriptures in this teaching to show you where this hurt comes from.† So there is one thing that you can do and that is to make sure that you never hurt anybody.† We need to be kind to each other and to love one another regardless of their shortcomings.
Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good. - Romans 12: 21
So what does this mean?† By being tricked and deceived by Satan, the end result was clear to me that I was overcome of evil.† But what did I do?† I tried my very best for many years to make amends and apologize to this young woman.† In other words I made every attempt I could make to overcome the evil that had come upon me with good.† I tried to communicate with this person and she did not make one attempt to listen to me or to give me a chance to communicate with her.† By her doing the things she did to me she was contradicting the Word.† She was doing what the god of this world was influencing her to do and that was to hurt me.† She did everything in her power to take the good that I was trying to manifest towards her and turned around and did evil to me.† She now was the one that was hurting me.† People make mistakes and I probably made a big one, but it takes a person with character to forgive someone who is making every attempt they can to make up for what they did.† I find it worthless to go through this life and have bad feelings about another person.† There is no profit in this and it is because a man or a woman does not give Godís Word the place it deserves in their lives.† There was always a Scripture thatís been one of my favorite scriptures.† It says something like the following:† If a man wants to go to hell, thatís his prerogative.
But if a man be ignorant, let him be ignorant. -† I Corinthians 14: 38
Letís say that you are a person that was hurt badly by somebody.† Now that person is making every attempt to apologize to you and to speak with you about what happened and why it happened.† If you are such a damn ignorant person, that you wonít give that person a chance, then you are like that person who wants to go to hell because thatís where youíre going.† I found it obnoxious in time that this girlfriend of mine would not give me the time of day after she cried on her porch begging me to not let her breakup with me.† What a scary thing to say to somebody.† And then instead of saying no to a guy that she knew was very interested in her, she danced with him all night long and thought there was nothing to it.† You see I was the one that initially was hurt very badly.† I realized when this happened just how much I cared about this young girl.† I missed her and thought about her for most of my life.† But God gave me another woman who was better than anyone I ever met.† But you see, in our lives we have weaknesses.† One of those weaknesses Iím going to show you from Godís Word right now.† Itís not just about thinking about the past Ė Ė itís about dwelling on the past.† This emotion is from the devil himself.† It says in the Bible that God not only forgives us of our past sins, he forgets them.† So if itís coming back up in your mind all the time, where is it coming from?† Are we going to be spiritually sharp or are we going to be ignorant.† We have free will to think either way.
Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this† one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before. -- Philippians 3: 13
Thatís what the Word of God says and thatís what the Word of God means.† We are never to dwell on the past.† If we do we will harm ourselves and get out of fellowship with God.† Dwelling on the past is sin.† Itís a trick of Satan to dwell on the past.† Well, how do we overcome this trick?† What we need to do is to get our head into the Bible and keep it there.† Study every single day.† Study as soon as you wake up in the morning.† Itís the Word of God that defeats the devil.† Itís the only choice you have if you want to be victorious in this life.
Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. - Romans 8: 37
Now which one do you want to be?† Do you want to be more than a conqueror or do you want to be a loser?† Well because of this teaching, Iím only going to mention one point and you know what that is.† Youíve got to make sure that you do not hurt people.† If you are doing that right now you need to go to those people and tell them that you are truly sorry.† Because hurt comes from the devil.† That is its only source.† Once you are born again, you have a responsibility to God Almighty to believe and to carry out His Word.
I can tell you from my own experience concerning the Word of God and all of Godís principles.† If you donít continue to use it -- you lose it.† Iím going to mention another saying thatís been around a long time and maybe a bit worn out.† But it still applies today.† Winners never quit and quitters never win.† You cannot be a winner unless you keep God first and foremost in your life.† If you donít you are guaranteeing that you will be nothing but a loser in your lifetime.† God makes winners.